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Women and the Plight of Pain

Does society ignore women’s pain? Do women ignore their own pain? This is a conversation that  I think warrants a discussion. There is an underlying theme that women should and will experience a great amount of pain at some point. There is one organ in particular that is definitely associated with pain. And that is the vagina.

Yes, this post is going to be about the vagina. The love below, natures scared purse, lotus flower bomb,  the va-yi-nya ( broad city pun). One of the things I noticed is that vagina is kinda thought of a burden to most women. I mean it bleeds once a month, it secretes randomly, and it’s super sensitive.  There are some days when it seems like it’s 4 5  seconds from a yeast infection and always the fear of a smell. But Can I tell you, I love my vagina. It’s pretty effing amazing. Lets just start off with the obvious, it partners up with the uterus to produce a whole human being. It’s strong as AF, and that secretion is it’s ability to self clean (can we say independent woman).

But the reason I think this precious little organ gets a bad rep is because of the pain association.  I have tons of friends who experience cramping during their period. Which has been an accepted fact…periods pretty much equal cramping. Period cramps can be very very very very painful. Now the pain does range from person to person. For example some of my friends and family experience little to no cramping at all, some are bed ridden, some get dizzy and light-headed, and have even passed out (okay that last one has happened to me). However we all seem to get the same cocktail if we complain about pain ; ibuprofen and birth control, which may or may not help.

Something just doesn’t seem right. Isn’t there another answer?

I do want to bring light to this issue. Pain is your body’s way of saying something is not right and we as women should start addressing our pain. Also it needs to be address with a little more than BC and ibuprofen. We are NOT sensitive, hormonal, crazy and erratic. We’re in pain. So Ladies fight for yourself. If you don’t think it’s right, it probably isn’t;r talk to you doctors.

With that be said, I stumbled upon this podcast called Another Round (new fav) and they did an interview with Padma Lakshmi host of Top Chef and Author of a couples of books. She talks a little bit about her journey to understand why she was in pain during her period. I thoroughly enjoyed her story and her take on women’s pain.

Check it out


Genesis 3:16 To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.”
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“My Everything” is Pure Pop Perfection

Ariana Grande’s ‘My Everything’ is pop magic. Sweet and spicy—a wonderful mixture of 808s and simple but not dumb lyrics. It’s the kind of album you’ll want to sing along to in your car and your shower and while you clean (essentially everywhere).

It’s sexier than last album but not dirty. It feels like the natural progression of someone collaborating on songs from the age of 17 to 21.

Grande is the best of everything that’s on the radio right now: EDM with Zedd, hip-hop features with Childish Gambino and A$AP Ferg, and all without straying away from her constant throwback to old Mariah feels.

In a time where there is so much chaos in our world, it’s refreshing to be reminded the kind of escape music can be.

Favorite Tracks: the sexy “Be My Baby” feels like 90s R&B re-imagined; “One Last Time” is pop perfection. 

For your listening pleasure… Ms. Ariana Grande

Heartbreak Dream

This Australian songstress’s sound is distinction and nostalgia all wrapped up in one. Her new EP entitled Slow Dancing features a late 80s, early 90s sound that is pop at its best: oozing fun without losing feeling. And with lyrics like those featured in her EP, you’re bound to feel.

“It’s us colliding/ it’s never finding when we should say when/ it’s holding hands/ it’s making plans that we’re never keeping.”

The whole EP should be blasted and listened to on a loop but ‘Heartbreak Dream’ particularly deserves a good performance with your hair brush mic and mirror audience. For your listening pleasure…Ms. Betty Who


This youtube darling dropped her first official EP on Itunes this week entitled The Lonely One. With a dreamboat voice (and face at that!) it’s hard to imagine her as anything remotely close to lonely, but then again, aren’t all the best artists? Her voice is without flaw: seemingly perfect vibrato, control, and range. Her voice is good listening for the soul whether she’s singing her own tunes like “Keeping Me Waiting,” covering top ten hits like Rihanna’s “Stay,” or rock classics like “Dreams” by Fleetwood Mac.

For your listening pleasure, Ms. Dana Williams…

Girls Like Us

“And so the river flows, the circle game repeats, the rutted road gets easier to walk down…And that is how it is for all three of these women—all three of these girls like us—who were born into one female culture and changed it—year by year, song by song, risk by risk—so sweepingly and daringly.”

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These are the final words from the entrancing biography Girls Like Us by Sheila Weller. Girls Like Us is the thorough and delightful tale of three of the best singer-songwriters of the 60s: Carly Simon, Carole King, and Joni Mitchell. I was drawn to the book as someone whose childhood memories are touched with many a Carole King or James Taylor song tucked into the background. My parents are huge fans of the famed singers, and they made sure their kids were as well.

Honestly, I picked up the novel, hoping to find more about James Taylor and it’s true, the story did satisfy a lot of my curiosity about James Taylor’s involvement with all of the ladies on the cover, but what really pulled me in was how fascinating the women themselves really were. They were fans of braving paths unknown for women at the time, but somehow they were still dealing with the same issues any woman deals with whether you make your living from writing music about your life or not.

Between the three of them, they racked up quite a name-dropping list of husbands and lovers: Jack Nicholson, Crosby, Stills, and Nash, and Mick Jagger just to name a few. The names on the list are sometimes baffling and seem so fictional, one can only read some of the stories from their lives and laugh. But it’s the songwriters’ abilities to turn their luck or loss in love (and in life!) into these magical tunes that really make them special. Carole, Joni, and Carly were Taylor Swift and Adele far before confessional singing was cool—in fact, it’s because of their honesty and brashness that the confessional singing genre even exists.

Weller finds a way to segment and detail the lives of (what seems like) three very different women, and connect them to you in a way that you never could imagine you would be. And without even directly touching on what is considered right or wrong now for women, something in the way Weller tells the stories of these women is almost like a little nudge on the back saying, “Go on, just do whatever it is you’ve been wanting to do. Why not?”

Even if only for the love of songs like “Case of You” and “Natural Woman,” Girls Like Us is certainly worth the read. Weller helps contextualize how each of your favorite songs came into existence.

Carole King with “Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow”

“Case of You” by Joni Mitchell

Carly Simon with “You’re So Vain”

You’ve Got To Hide Your Love Away

Grey’s Anatomy has a way of making even the most anti-sentimentalist all gooey and nostalgic. Tonight’s episode was something of a throwback for one of the show’s main couples, Owen and Christina. Even though Owen’s been seeing the girl of his dreams (the “2 or 3 children” wanting, stay at home mom) he can’t help but fall in love with Christina all over again when she shows up at his front door all wine’d up.

All of the songs featured in tonight’s episode were a throwback to 80s hits that have recently been recovered.

1. The episode opened with Jo and Alex in bed and this folksy version of “Don’t You Forget About Me.”

2. When Christina shows up at Owen’s door to congratulate him on the new relationship (but ultimately to ruin his life one more time) Sleeping At Last sings this gorgeous cover of a Cyndi Lauper classic.

3. The eerily revamped Michael Jackson classic can be heard when the interns finally devise a plan to save the young girl suffering from multiple cancers but figure it out just a little too late.

4.  “Don’t You Want Me” never sounded so solemn and sweet as it did while Owen breaks up with his perfect girlfriend.

 Tell me your thoughts on the covers or the episode below!


19 You + Me

Anyone else ready for summer?? “19 You + Me” is what summer sounds like: flash pan romances, dancing, and sipping in the sand. This sweet little country tune is the first single from new comers to the country world Dan + Shay.

 Their career has been as fast as summer usually feels, writing their first song together in 2012 and being signed within the first year. But hearing their voices makes it easy to understand why they got picked up so fast. Dan + Shay’s sound is a nod to the Rascall Flatts or Hunter Hayes. No wonder the first song they wrote was recorded by Rascall Flatts and they’ll be opening for Hunter Hayes tour this coming summer.

I’ve become a bit obsessed with this new set of country writers like Hunter Hayes, Danielle Bradbery, and Kacey Musgraves. Their writing takes the country style, creating detailed stories in less than 3 minutes, but they’re not afraid to lean into a poppy tune.

 I admit “19 You + Me” is a little cheesy, but isn’t every love story at 19 years old?

 For your listening pleasure… Dan + Shay

And don’t miss their debut album Where It All Began out April 1!

GUSH (yup, it’s about exactly what it sounds like)

He’s a producer, a writer, an artist… what can’t Pharrell do? To shame all of the rest of us even more, Pharrell dropped an album of his own today. Girl is funky and sexy. As we’ve come to expect from this phenom, it’s impossible to listen to the album without wanting to get up and dance.

Girl has many tracks that solely star Pharrell, but with all of the major talent beholden to his beck and call, “Girl” has some fun features like Justin Timberlake on “Brand New,” Alicia Keys on “Know Who You Are,” and even a personal favorite of mine, JoJo on “Lost Queen.”

“Gush” is dirty, fun, clever… very much the epitome of this artist we’ve come to know and love. For your listening pleasure… Mr. Pharrell Williams.


Tonight’s episode of Girls felt like the feel good episode that happens right before the shit hits the fan. Hannah gets her first real paycheck. Adam gets an actual acting job. And all of the girls meet up in one of New York’s most fancy hotels for a free night’s stay.

Besides warming my little hopeless romantic heart with an honest and envy-worthy bathtub scene with Hannah and Adam, the episode had a bunch of great tunes that I assume I’ll be playing over and over for the next twenty-four hours. Thought I might as well share them with you so you can also obsess.

You’re welcome.

When Hannah walks past an expensively gorgeous dress and actually goes in to buy it, she’s listening to Lily Allen’s “L8 CMMR.”

After crying in the bathroom with Hannah, Marnie comes out to sing “Roll On, John” by Bob Dylan with the traveling actor Desi.

The rolling credits song featured Miguel’s “Simple Things.”

Follow Your Arrow

“So make lots of noise

Kiss lots of boys

Or kiss lots of girls

If that’s what you’re into

When the straight and narrow gets a little too straight,

Roll up a joint. I would.

And follow your arrow wherever it points.”

This country crooner from South Texas has ruffled a few feathers in the country world and reawakened the storytelling delight that was the foundation of the country genre.

She’s got a way of turning cliches on their heads and re-inventing their meaning. Her lyrics question American staples while encouraging people to make their own traditions (i.e. “Silver Lining” and “Merry Go ‘Round”). And her voice is pretty sweet to boot.

For your listening pleasure, Ms. Kacey Musgraves…