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Goodbye My Old Friend: An Open Letter to Shonda Rhimes and Grey’s Anatomy

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People who know me well know that I probably take the TV shows I invest time in a little too seriously, and a little too personally. I started watching Grey’s Anatomy the day before my 14th birthday. I was a freshman in a high school that I didn’t feel particularly loved or comfortable in (does anyone in high school feel particularly loved and comfortable???). Anyway the show began right around the time when my closest group of friends began to circle each other like a great bar against all senses of evil and darkness that would come our way. I called my best friend my person, my Die, just like Meredith did with her best friends. The show was a weekly beacon for us to watch and connect and imagine our lives would shape into (my best friend eventually going to med school to be a surgeon the likes of the character I’d always called her by). Sure, it was a primetime soap that often saw bombs and car accidents and lots of different forms of sadness along the way, but the relationships between the characters always felt like this tangible proof of long term friendships and hope—hope for human understanding, hope for happiness, and (maybe) most importantly hope for love.

The years have seen characters come and go, but Meredith and her love were always a rock for the show to come back to, and for its audience to feel trust in. It seemed that’s where the show started—in a living room on the floor—and that’s where it would end.


On this week’s episode, Meredith and Derek’s story came to a close when his car was hit by a truck in an awful car accident. The ending felt weak and cheap and rushed. It felt like there were forces happening behind the scenes that made the ending so abrupt.

I know it’s a TV show and I really shouldn’t care. These aren’t real people and with all the live, actual bad things happening in the world, it’s tough to feel empathy or mercy towards someone who has time to feel sad about the end of a character on a show that’s been on way longer than it needed to be. But I’m still going to say this anyway: Derek’s death meant a lot to me. Yes, he was a character on a show, but he was also more than that. Over a decade’s worth of watching him, he became a symbol for good at the end of the day, for hope for those that are less than optimistic.

It’s the end of an era, a decade of something unreal (in a very literal sense) and yet still very present in my life. This will be my last season watching Grey’s Anatomy. I have loved every break up and make up, and fake surgeries that could never happen. I’ve loved even the plane crashes and the unnecessary deaths. As Shonda Rhimes is queen of doing, she’s impacted my life with her fiction in a way few writers ever do. And I’ll forever be grateful.

Goodbye, my old friend. I will miss you so much.



I’ve been dating since I was 15!

One of my favorite scenes from Sex and the City is when Charlotte has a melt down and says …

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I know how Charlotte feels. My hair hurts too! Being my own “White Knight” sounds super depressing when I grew up with subliminal messages telling me he’s out there. Aka, I hate you Disney…sike I’m just kidding…but forreal though you kinda screwed me over.

I, Katiya, literally hate dating.  Plenty of fish gave me anxiety; so I deleted it, I only used tinder for thumb exercises; so I deleted it, and I still haven’t mastered the technique of looking available but not thotish on instagram; I still have a instagram (@Katiyaj). Any way, I say all this to say, I’m not quite sure how I’m supposed to find “the one”, if I don’t date. I’m not quite sure if “the one” really exist.

Growing up in a Christian household I was told to bring all of my concerns to God . So I ‘ve been talking to God about my frustrations with dating, men, love, and my ovaries. I’ve asked him several times how will I become a successful woman with a great career, a wonderful husband and beautiful kids, if I can’t find somebody who I’m compatible with.

Today I came across this video ( Thanks God).  It made me feel a lot better about myself and my current singleness and I hope it does the same for you.

Here are the main points of the video:

1. You’re a person of great worth and potential.

2. You’re a work in progress.

3. The key to becoming is beginning at the right place.

4. Having a life story IS BETTER than a love story.

5. Having a purpose fuels everything, and it will end up fueling who you marry and why.

The video is a little long but it’s worth it.

About Alex: Flawed but oh so Captivating

“There are three stages to finding friends in college: the first is desperation, the second is panic, the third is fate—when you wind up at the same table together, somehow and your real life begins…”

Such are the starter words to writer Ben’s (played by Nate Parker) first published piece. It’s a piece that led to his full time career in writing, and captured his friendship with his five closest friends from college, which include merger and acquisition lawyer Sarah (Aubrey Plaza), philosopher and resident douche bag Josh (Max Greenfield), investment banker Isaac (Max Minghella), Ben’s girlfriend Siri (Maggie Grace), and devoted loner Alex (Jason Ritter). Ben’s words were scribed ten years ago at a time where the bond between these six people was all consuming. About Alex, however, brings us into the future where the only thing that can bring these reluctant friends together is Alex’s attempted suicide. The friends, along with new addition Kate (played by Jane Levy), spend a weekend at Alex’s house trying to avoid everything from the bathroom Alex slit his wrists in, to the unanswered question of what happened to their friendship.

The trailer for About Alex boasted a review that it is The Big Chill for millennials and that influence and idea is easy to see when watching the film. Although the editing is sometimes choppy and I’m never a fan of background music that is so loud and intrusive it is basically telling the audience, “This is when you should feel sad,” there is this connection and a familiarity to the film that makes it hard to stop watching. There are so many different complexities to all of these relationships within the friend group, and if you are a fan of New Girl there is a glimpse of Schmidt somewhere in Max Greenfield’s performance, but it is the relationship between Ben and Alex, so flawlessly developed by Nate Parker and Jason Ritter, that makes this film worth watching. There is a desperation and a lost-ness between the two of them that shines in particular that gives the movie its feet.

As someone in a group of six friends who has obsessively been involved with each other for nearly a decade now, I actively search for and dismiss all movies that have to do with a group of friends who come back together and face a crisis. But About Alex is charming and warm. It’s the kind of film that you can watch again and again and relearn something about each character or scene without boredom.

About Alex is not a perfect movie. But getting the chance to see those six friends become who they were just by sitting at a dining hall table left me in both sad and happy sobs. I’m sure if you see the movie, it’ll break you just the same.

You can find About Alex on VOD and in select theaters starting August 8, 2014.

Christina & Meredith’s Best Moments in gifs

Maybe you’re a die hard Grey’s Anatomy fan, or maybe you stopped watching a few seasons ago when Shonda Rhimes’s trademark melodrama got to be too much for you. Either way last week’s “Farewell to Christina” marked the end of an era in terms of friendship. Meredith and Christina’s co-dependence will go down in history along with Will & Grace…. Monica & Rachel… Lavern & Shirley … Lucy & Ethel!

The only thing missing from the nights episode (which ended with a gratifying “dance it out”) was a cliche and well deserved montage of our fav duo through the years.  Here you have it

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Love the existential bummer

Is love the “existential bummer”?  Have you every felt extremely content , and yet a little sad  at the same time? Or maybe looked at your partner or even your best friend and and felt a little haunted by a thought in the back of your mind: “but what about that the day that we’re not like this anymore?”

Well you’re not alone, its simply part of the human condition, as Jason Silva eloquently explains in this short but thought provoking video, about the acceptance & rejection of temporary joy.



“perhaps that’s why when we’re in love we’re also kind of sad, there’s a sadness to the ecstasy, you know beautiful things can sometimes make us a little sad and its because what they hint at is the exception, a vision of something more , a vision of a hidden door , a rabbit hole to fall through , but a temporary one . I think ultimately that is kind of the tragedy. That is why love simultaneously fills us with melancholy, that’s why sometimes I feel nostalgic over something I haven’t lost yet , because I see its transience. How does one respond to this? Do we love harder , do we squeeze tighter? Or do we embrace the Buddhist creed of no attachment? Do we pretend not to care that everything and everyone we know is going to be taken away from us?”

What do you choose?

Five Reasons to See ‘Neighbors’

The Frat House vs. Family comedy just hit theaters this past Friday. It’ll be the perfect laugh to start your summer and here’s why:

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 5. Baby Stella

This little chunk keeps a smile on her face throughout most of the film, whether she’s dressed as Walter White, Dexter, or Seth Rogen and the rest of the cast. She, alone, is worth the watch.

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 4. Dave Franco plays an intellectual

 The brother of the man who can and does do all decides to show a bit of his intellectual side in Neighbors. He’s funny, still hot, and he seems to want a career besides making party history with the rest of his frat. Plus, straight-A student Pete will be a great juxtaposition to Franco’s drug selling, jail bait character in his other movie this summer, 22 Jump Street.

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 3. Seth Rogen and Rose Byrne make a pretty cute couple.

They’re new parents who are trying to balance being parents and still feeling like they can have some fun. A really awesome part about their adventures against the frat house next door is watching them continue to be a kick ass team and be in love with each other. It’s a rarity in this type of film (or really in any film I’ve seen in the past year, I suppose) and it’s quite refreshing.


 2. You might need to know how to milk a human woman one day.

I won’t give the whole scene away because it is something that everyone should experience personally, but when I say Rogen and Byrne make a good team, this scene is a big part of what I am referencing!

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 I will not deny the main reason I originally wanted to see this movie was because of the advertisements for the film, in which Efron barely ever has a shirt on. The movie, in this regard, does not disappoint. But leaving the theater I was actually quite impressed with Efron’s comedic chops, improvising seemingly just as well as Rogen. Plus… like… his shirt is off for most of the movie.

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Five Reasons You Should Be Watching “About A Boy”

When I first heard that network television was going to take on About A Boy, I wrote it off. I’m rarely fond of books that have turned into movies—but the idea of a book turning into a Hugh Grant movie that then became a TV series seemed liked a generally bad 21 minutes of television. Fortunately for me, some friends of mine who are way less judgmental than I (apparently) am tuned in on opening night and convinced me to give the show a chance. The list below features the reasons why I now cannot stop watching this heartwarming little comedy—and the reasons you should give it a shot.


5. Friday Night Lights characters will guest star

The characters and the cast of FNL made their way into our hearts and if you are anything like me, you’ve spent the past 3 years watching shows and movies that you probably don’t even like just to see your favorite cast at it again (cough, cough PromJohn Carter). Tyra- errr I mean Adrianne Palicki guest starred in episode 6 of About A Boy and her character was just as quick witted as Tyra ever was (minus the Texas accent, plus a doctor’s coat). I’m sure more FNL cast members will find their way onto the show as Jason Katims is the show creator! Which brings me to reason number four.


4. Jason Katims is the show creator

The man behind television’s best shows about family (and probably America!) is running About A Boy. He’s got a knack for writing characters that are so relatable and real, you start confusing what’s happened in his shows with what’s happened in your real life. Parenthood and Friday Night Lights are both shows whose performances and writing were unstated and spectacular and Katims is mostly to blame for these feats. His glow warms up About A Boy and it’ll probably warm up your heart a little too.

 minnie driver3. MINNIE DRIVER

Minnie Driver plays the mother of Marcus. Have you heard this woman speak? Have you seen Good Will Hunting? Need I say more?? 

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2. Will & Marcus Make the Best Team

If you’re a fan of Parenthood you’ll know from episode one that Will, played by David Walton, is basically season one Crosby. He is also really attractive. Putting hot, irresponsible musician type with a sheltered, faux vegan ten-year-old named Marcus (Benjamin Stockham) is a truly winning combination. Their banter is funny, but together they are helping each other grow up and watching it is a treat.

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1. It’s only 21 minutes long.

Minus the commercials, it is 20 minutes, once a week that you will feel happy about the world. Sometimes it is a bit cheesy but its heartwarming nature is undeniable.


All of the episodes can be found on Hulu and Amazon. Get to it!!


All of My Favorite TV Characters Keep Dying

All of My Favorite TV Characters Keep Dying:

A Look At Six TV Deaths We’re Sure We Will Never Get Over

It’s in marketing’s nature for television shows to say that each episode is going to be “the most dramatic episode of television ever” or something as grandiose and obscene that writers can never really come through on. This year, however, it seems series aren’t afraid of killing off regulars. Although some shows are following the design that was made far before their existence (House of Cards), other shows are fearlessly murdering their main characters. Here are the most shocking character loses of the past four months.


Brian Griffin


The death of this beloved dog from Family Guy was so shocking to fans that social media seemed to go up in flames with petitions against the dogs death. Alas, the death lasted only a few weeks, but like any beloved character, Brian’s death was truly a shocker to fans.


Clay Morrow

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Sons of Anarchy fans knew that the end of Clay Morrow’s reign was inevitable, but it was still hard to see him go! As show creator Kurt Sutter told EW,  “As much as people say that they want Clay dead, they don’t want Clay dead…They want to see it be complicated. They want to see how Gemma feels about betraying Clay. They want to see how Juice feels about betraying. They want to see that play out even though they, in their gut, they know the guy should be dead.” Ahh, I guess in Morrow’s case, there is a little rest for the wicked.



Joss Carter

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Audiences were (umm, present tense ‘are’ still for some of us) devastated when Detective Carter was killed in this season’s Person of Interest. Commercials leading up to the episode all pointed in the direction that another character would be killed off, but when it was Carter who was taken down, fans immediately went to social media to express their outrage at the loss of good gal Carter. I guess that last moment between Carter and Reese became the literal kiss of death…


Zoe Barnes

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Okay! It is true that Zoe Barnes dies in the British version of House of Cards and so her death shouldn’t have been a big shocker. But somehow when (almost) President Underwood pushes feisty little Zoe in front of a moving subway train IN THE FIRST 30 MINUTES OF SEASON TWO, I was waiting for some sign that this was a horrible day dream designed by Underwood.  Three episodes passed and I was still waiting for Zoe to reappear, alive and in tact. I hope Zoe is resting in some chair-less journalist heaven.


James Novak

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Novak’s husband had almost gotten him bumped off before, but this time it seems Cyrus’ actions really got his own husband killed. Just when it seems Cyrus and James can pull it together and be a family, Shonda Rhimes and the Scandal writers (or “the crushers of all dreams” as I like to call them) decide to make sure former sweetheart Jake gruesomely kills James, and stays to watch him go. Rest in peace to the white hats, no?


Will Gardner

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As this death just happened only hours ago—with no warning and seemingly no real end game—it’s still a big shocker to me. Gardner’s chemistry with Alicia—their banter, their eye contact, their obvious pull to one another—is the main reason many fans continue to watch the Will-Alicia-Peter love triangle after FIVE seasons. The Kings had managed to keep writing the same love story without making their audience ever wish it would end. One thing audiences across the board (and I myself!) thought was that whenever The Good Wife ended, Alicia and Will would be hand-in-hand. Apparently we were all so very wrong.

There are exactly five stages of grief. I’ll let you know when I get past stage one.

You’ve Got To Hide Your Love Away

Grey’s Anatomy has a way of making even the most anti-sentimentalist all gooey and nostalgic. Tonight’s episode was something of a throwback for one of the show’s main couples, Owen and Christina. Even though Owen’s been seeing the girl of his dreams (the “2 or 3 children” wanting, stay at home mom) he can’t help but fall in love with Christina all over again when she shows up at his front door all wine’d up.

All of the songs featured in tonight’s episode were a throwback to 80s hits that have recently been recovered.

1. The episode opened with Jo and Alex in bed and this folksy version of “Don’t You Forget About Me.”

2. When Christina shows up at Owen’s door to congratulate him on the new relationship (but ultimately to ruin his life one more time) Sleeping At Last sings this gorgeous cover of a Cyndi Lauper classic.

3. The eerily revamped Michael Jackson classic can be heard when the interns finally devise a plan to save the young girl suffering from multiple cancers but figure it out just a little too late.

4.  “Don’t You Want Me” never sounded so solemn and sweet as it did while Owen breaks up with his perfect girlfriend.

 Tell me your thoughts on the covers or the episode below!


Sex and Economics????

Welcome to 2014, where there is less dating and more ” I’m just here to have fun”. Where “side chicks” are glorified. Where strippers become wives right before your eyes and have picture perfect marriages. There has truly been a change in the dating game and I think it would be nice if someone would kindly explain what is happening. Well… someone has actually taken the time to research this phenomena

The Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture has an interesting perspective on how/why dating has changed over the years.  To sum up their answer in a few words… the need to make a commitment has changed because the supply and demand of sex has changed over the years.